December 8th, 2011

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How to Encourage Forgiveness & the Two Types of Forgiveness

Frederic Luskin, PhD, director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Project:
... Luskin encourages the practice of gratitude -- the active effort to acknowledge what's good in your life.

"Gratitude is simply focusing your attention on the positive things that have happened," he says. "That creates a biochemical experience that makes it more likely that forgiveness will occur."...
Everett L. Worthington Jr., PhD, a professor of psychology at Virginia Commonwealth University:
... divides forgiveness into two types. Decisional forgiveness involves choosing to let go of angry thoughts about the person you feel has wronged you.

"You can tell yourself, 'I am not going to seek revenge,' for example, or, 'I am going to avoid that person,'" Worthington says. "You could choose decisional forgiveness and still have a lot of emotional unforgiveness."

The ultimate goal, however, is emotional forgiveness, in which negative emotions such as resentment, bitterness, hostility, hatred, anger, and fear are replaced with love, compassion, sympathy, and empathy.

"Emotional forgiveness is where the health action is,"...
  • http://www.webmd.com/balance/guide/forgive-forget?page=2